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26 Ways To Take Your Life Back When You’re Broken

Life is tough, but so are you.


Dr. Phil argues that, “Time doesn’t change us. It’s what we do with that time that changes us.” Here follows a list of twenty-six things you can do to change your life—and yourself—for the better.

#1: Get fit.

As your body strength increases, so will your mental and emotional strengths. As Jillian Michaels says, “Fitness isn’t about a crunch or a push up. It’s about taking your power back.”

#2: Travel.

Whether it’s for a day, a week, or a month, experiencing a new environment—and new perspectives—will spark the kind of thinking which positive change requires.

#3: Think about the present most, the future next, and the past the least.

It’s important to learn from your mistakes, but imperative not to dwell on them. What’s more, it requires a lot of thoughts and actions to properly manage the present, and the future is constantly becoming the present regardless—so focus on the things that will most impact both present and future happiness.

#4: Meet new people.

This is somewhat like travelling. It’s extremely beneficial to expose yourself to new people and new perspectives, because at least parts of some of these perspectives can be taken up and applied to your own life in order to realize positive change.

#5: Be open and honest.

In other words, be genuine—it will benefit you overall in more ways that can ever be written or imagined.

#6: Be cognizant of long-term health.

In the long-run, it’s best to stay home from work when you’re sick, no matter if your issues are physical, mental, or emotional.

#7: Be yourself in appearance.

Style your hair or trim (or grow) facial hair in a way which conveys the real “you,” or start wearing clothing or accessories that really represent who you are and what you represent.

#8: Walk away from negativity.

Whether it’s a bad job, a bad career, or a bad relationship, start taking the steps which will enable you to transform a negative aspect of your life into a positive one.

#9: Allow yourself to release.

Let go of as much of the pain, regret, and irritation from the past as you can. Release yourself from spending time and energy on thinking about those things, and allow yourself to devote the time and energy you save to making positive changes.

#10: Reach out to new peers who have lived through similar experiences.

Especially the ones who have succeeded through similar experiences.

#11: Take a week off (no travelling necessary).

Throughout the duration, just do you. Don’t answer emails, social media requests, calls, or texts (unless you genuinely want to). Watch what you want to, read what you want to, eat what you want to. For one week, just do what you want (and what makes you happy).

#12: Throw some things out.

Get rid of old paperwork you don’t need anymore, and really, old “everything” you don’t need anymore. It might not come as a surprise that when your physical environment is clean and organized, your mind can become clean and organized as well.

#13: Strengthen your good relationships.

Take the time to figure out which friendships, romantic relationships, and family relationships are productive and positive—and make sure you keep getting the most out of them.

#14: Eat really healthy for a month.

Proper amounts of grains, meats, fruits, and vegetables are mandatory. You probably won’t keep the exact same diet the next month, but you will probably adopt a new diet which is more healthier over the long run.

#15: Enroll in a course or workshop.

Never stop learning—if you complete a course which you’re interested in (or even a course you’re not that interested in, truthfully), it will benefit your life in ways that you never would have been able to predict or imagine.

#16: Make and keep a budget.

If you haven’t done this before, it will probably be a frightening, shocking, and amazingly beneficial experience.

#17: Seek validation.

Converse with trustworthy friends or family members and get a sense for how much they think you’re succeeding. If you’ve begun to practice most of these tips, it’s a pretty safe bet they’ll provide positive feedback (which will make you feel even better, and which will cause you to realize even more success soon).

#18: Base success on change, not outcome.

Making small changes toward positive outcomes is successful in itself. Accept, acknowledge, and embrace this.

#19: Learn a second language (or third, or fourth, etc.).

The type of thinking involved with learning a new language will enable you to think about your entire life in new (and beneficial) ways.

#20: Start a new, positive habit.

It can be big or small, but as long as it’s productive in at least some small way, it will spark positive change in other aspects of your life as well.

#21. Be happier than you think or feel that you should be.

Don’t enjoy life any less than you should due to probable underestimation or modesty.

#22: Make and keep boundaries.

Don’t shy away from helping others, but don’t allow yourself to be taken advantage of, either. Always maintain and defend your own integrity.

#23: Eliminate a bad habit for at least three months.

Whether it’s smoking, drinking, or eating greasy foods, doing this will benefit your health and your life overall in the short-term (and probably in the long-term as well, since three months is about the time it takes to kick most bad habits for good).

#24: Do something that terrifies you.

Think skydiving, public speaking, or entering a dance-off. You’ll become stronger and more productive overall as a result of overcoming fear.

#25: Be proud of yourself and your accomplishments.

If you’re still alive, then you’ve persevered through enough things to be proud of. 

#26: Be forgiving.

This will allow you to genuinely move on and spend more time and energy in positive fashions.

 

*This content was inspired by an amazing article that can be found here.