If you ever feel down about who you are as a human being, it might be helpful to read and remember the words of Lori Deschene: “We can’t hate ourselves into a version of ourselves we can love.” Never forget what’s good about you, and whenever possible, don’t be overcritical of yourself.
Sometimes all it takes is reading the right blog post in order to get you through the night, and by the same token, sometimes all it takes is for someone else to read your blog post to get them through the night. So whenever you think you might be being too hard on yourself, remember the following list—and cheer up a little!
#1: You’re not the only one who compares yourself to others—and feels inadequate.
However, most successful people do this much less frequently than others. If possible, attempt to perceive others with compassion and understanding rather than envy or jealousy. Everyone is imperfect, but everyone has several positive traits as well.
#2: Sometimes your brain deceives you.
Whenever negative thoughts enter your mind, remember that they are just that—thoughts. They are not necessarily true, and they almost certainly should not be dwelled upon. It’s best to focus on positive thoughts, because even if there are genuinely negative things going on with you, positive thinking is what will help resolve them.
#3: If you’re alive, you’re in a positive situation.
Read and remember the words of Jon Kabat-Zinn: “Until you stop breathing, there’s more right with you than wrong with you.” This may seem overly straightforward, but it’s so, so much better to be alive as opposed to being dead. Give this ideology some thought, especially when life seems like a disaster.
#4: You deserve to receive far more love than you think you do.
This is especially true when you’re angry, anxious, depressed, or feel ashamed. Experiencing these feelings is natural from time to time, and it is human nature to require love in order to experience more positive emotions. What’s more, many times it’s the faults of others that cause you to feel down, so it makes sense that other individuals need to play a significant role in lifting your spirits.
#5: You must make peace with the present in order to feel satisfied in the future.
The present is constantly becoming the future, now is always turning into then, and all human beings are in a constant state of transition. So this means you genuinely need to appreciate who and where you currently are in order to appreciate who you’re becoming and where you’re going. It’s a little confusing, but give it some thought; it will be highly beneficial both now and in the future.
#6: Perfection is unattainable—but progress is always within reach.
Focus on your successes rather than your imperfections. You do need to realize what you need to improve on, but building upon things you’ve already managed to do right is more productive than dwelling on what you’ve done wrong. You’ll notice this has been mentioned before, but it’s certainly important enough to devote even more thought to.
#7: True love is rarely spawned out of genuine hate.
As alluded to, human beings need to realize what they already love about themselves in order to really love the rest of themselves—and other individuals, too. Most of us have things that we hate about ourselves, but thinking about the things we love about ourselves more frequently will cause love to spread as opposed to hate.
Again, even if a lot of this advice seems too simple or too much like common sense to be useful, please, give it some close, meaningful thought regardless. There’s very little to lose by giving it a try, and so, so much to lose by refusing to.
*This content was inspired by an amazing article that can be found here: here.