Children nowadays are usually much more distracted than children were back in the day; among other things, modern technology has played a major role in this unfortunate aspect of reality. Furthermore, modern children tend to be more secluded as a result of modern technology, and they frequently need more help than their parents provide them with pertaining to things like learning manners, bonding healthily, and communicating effectively. Fortunately, researchers at Harvard University have provided parents with the information and insights they need to raise “good” kids—please continue reading to ensure any potential children you have turn out better than most.
5 secrets to raising good kids.
#1: Quality time.
In order for time spent with children to be classified as being “quality” time, the activities really cannot involve video games, TV, or shopping. Instead, you should spend your time together bonding emotionally, communicating openly, and brainstorming for solutions to problems or answers to questions.
#2: Moral role models.
Your children will likely become echoes or rhymes of yourself—so contemplate and choose your words and actions wisely. Pay attention to manners, humility, fairness, honesty, and positivity. If you earn the trust and respect of your children, then they will likely be more trustworthy and respectful themselves.
#3: Empathy and ethics.
Make sure that you provide your children with the environment that they need to socialize and bond properly with their peers. What’s more, show that you are more of a selfless person than a selfish person, and your children will probably end up being more selfless themselves. As per Harvard’s research, “It’s very important that children hear from their parents and caretakers that caring about others is a top priority and that it is just as important as their own happiness. Even though most parents and caretakers say that children being caring is a top priority, often children aren’t hearing the message.”
#4: Appreciation and gratitude.
You must avoid spoiling your children so that they will be capable of acknowledging the roles of others in healthy ways; they must appreciate the individuals who contribute to their happiness in order to do this, and children won’t do this if they are spoiled excessively. More specifically, children will likely end up being more helpful, generous, compassionate, forgiving, healthy, and happy if they learn to appreciate people, and happiness itself. As per Harvard’s study, “Expect children to routinely help, for example, with household chores and siblings, and only praise uncommon acts of kindness. When these kinds of routine actions are simply expected and not rewarded, they’re more likely to become ingrained in everyday actions.”
#5: Broad perspectives.
To put it another way, you need to teach your children how to see the big picture—and how to see the significance of the big picture. More specifically, most children need help expanding their circle of friends and acquaintances in order to fully develop their personality and character. Harvard’s research argues that “It is important that children learn to zoom in, listening closely and attending to those in their immediate circle, and to zoom out, taking in the big picture and considering the range of people they interact with every day.”
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Harvard University: Making Caring Common Project
*This content was inspired by an amazing article that can be found here.