Highly sensitive people like empaths are being analyzed more and more nowadays, but the discussion owes much of its substance to a psychologist named Dr. Elaine Aron who studied the subject in the late 1980s. Aron found that 15% to 20% of human beings were highly sensitive, and she defined this as meaning heightened response to external stimuli relative to most people. More specifically, highly sensitive individuals are capable of detecting disingenuous people, and they require honest, deep, meaningful relationships in order to experience true happiness and peacefulness.
Empaths normally deal with disingenuous people by remaining silent or keeping their speech to a minimum. Keep in mind that empaths experience strange physical and mental symptoms when faced with fake human beings, so sometimes it just isn’t possible for an empath to do much else other than to wait for the person to leave or to flee themselves. Please read the list below for more specific types of people that empaths have trouble being around:
#1: Pushovers who act as needed in order to fit in.
#2: People who act happy even though they are angry.
#3: People who act tough even though they are insecure.
#4: People who act as needed to fit in—but still can’t.
#5: People who flatter others in order to be liked.
#6: People who are melodramatic to gain attention.
Read the list below to find out how empaths usually react to these kinds of disingenuous people:
#3: Feelings of discomfort, or even dread.
#4: Physical illness.
#5: Feelings of confusion or guilt.
#6: Strong desire to flee.
Empaths perceive the world differently than most people, and they avoid certain people to avoid being negatively impacted by them—not because they wish them personal harm or misfortune. In fact, empaths are so caring that they usually wish people well even when they can’t stand to interact with them directly. Please read the list below to find out what empaths need to do in order to maintain their unique health and wellbeing:
#1: Just say “no.”
It’s difficult to remain sensitive while simultaneously saying “no,” but empaths must be able to do this in order to maintain their wellbeing; if empaths always say yes they will quickly become drained and physically ill because other people reach out to them for help constantly. It’s even more difficult for empaths to say “no” when they see how disappointed the other people are, but, again, saying “no” is necessary for both short term and long term health.
#2: Be selfish sometimes.
As alluded to, empaths often try to be heroes and their personal health suffers as a result of this. As such, it is imperative for empaths to not worry about the wellbeing of other people for at least a few hours every day, and to recharge their energy and sanity during this time. However, if empaths manage to be selfish sometimes—or to at least properly care for themselves—then they can help more people in the long run because they will be functioning at full capacity more frequently.
#3: Be indifferent to praise and flattery.
As discussed, empaths must avoid being talked into helping everyone with everything, and they must avoid being swayed by compliments to be able to say “no” with enough frequency. Any human being who constantly puts their own needs behind everyone else’s is sure to burnout or fall-ill eventually; empaths may be able to hold on more than most people because of their high degree of tolerance, but they should never have to.
*This content was inspired by an amazing article that can be found here.