Natalie Babitt’s best line ever is probably, “Don’t be afraid of death; be afraid of an unlived life. You don’t have to live forever; you just have to live.” The experience of having a loved one pass away is oftentimes shocking. Most human beings cannot help but thinking things such as, “Why them?” “Why did it happen? and “They had so much life left to live.” Please read the info and insights below to make sure you do enough living in life before it’s too late.
#1: Slow things down.
Constantly multitasking might get you to where you’re trying to go in life more quickly, but it will surely cause you miss out on many of the finer things in life which are nuanced or veiled. When you think about how temporary life really is, you should begin to realize how fleeting and valuable each second of every minute of every day truly is. With all this in mind, slow down and enjoy life to the core.
#2: Talk openly about mortality.
Sometimes death can be scary to think about, let alone to discuss with another human being. In fact, many people even find it hard to talk about death at funeral. However, it’s imperative to acknowledge and accept that human mortality is a fact. Indeed, learning to talk about death will make you even more grateful for still being alive.
#3: Acknowledge and accept that nothing in life is certain.
It’s vital to embrace uncertainty in order to properly plan for both the near and distant future. If a person only plans for one outcome and only genuinely expects that one outcome to unfold, then they will be almost entirely unprepared for what actually comes to pass 99% of the time. What’s more, acknowledging and accepting uncertainty will help you avoid the pitfalls of being a perfectionist, and doing so will also enhance your ability to adapt to a wide variety of situations and circumstances.
#4: Always have purpose and meaning as a person.
Top palliative nurse Bronnie Ware has written down the biggest regrets of patients on their death beds, and this was the biggest regret of all: “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.” Indeed, it can be extremely productive to think carefully about what you would regret most if you died in the near future; there’s a good chance this type of brainstorming will inspire you to take rapid action in order to cross potential regrets off your list.
#5: Love deeply.
Another popular regret many people have is not having been able to tell someone how they really felt about them—and not having been able to find out how the person really felt about them—before the person died. Even though these types of regrets are common, they are also terrible ones for anyone to have and experience. To avoid this scenario, make it a point to tell the people you love that you love them on a regular basis. Moreover, tell them specifically why you love them whenever a new reason occurs to you. Even a call, a text, or an email can eliminate numerous potential regrets later in life. Keep in mind that small acts of kindness are often significant nevertheless, and also that concrete expressions of love benefit both people involved in the event.
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