John Allen Paulos once said that, “Uncertainty is the only certainty there is, and knowing how to live with insecurity is the only security.” For anyone who is in a relationship, this notion could be more than a little alarming. Moreover, anyone who is in a relationship who has previously been through a painful breakup might be terrified by Paulos’s philosophy. However, a different quote from unknown author may be able to provide some comfort: “Single is not a status. It is a word that describes a person who is strong enough to live and enjoy life without depending on others.” Please read this list below to better appreciate what it means to be single—and to better appreciate it whenever you happen to be single.
#1: There’s no reason not to be yourself.
Since you don’t have a partner to care for—or to impress—there’s no reason not to let go; do what you want to do when you want to do it, period.
#2: You have more time to focus on the present.
As mentioned, bachelors and bachelorettes have more free time than most people in relationships because they don’t have to devote time or energy to even thinking about a partner, much less doing anything related to a partner. The key is to devote this time and energy to figuring out what you need to do to be as happy, as peaceful, and as successful as possible in the present (and perhaps the very near future).
#3: You’ll recognize what’s missing in your life.
Aside from a partner, that is! When you focus on thinking about what would make you happier, it will be impossible not to envision some things that would make life more enjoyable that you don’t already have.
#4: Change is often good—if that’s what you make it.
Oftentimes, what you need to do is think of all the opportunities which are now possible because of change, and to think of all the opportunities which are still available after change has occurred.
#5: Thinking about love when you’re not in love is beneficial.
And it doesn’t have to be a sad experience at all! If anything, contemplating how you’ll love and be loved differently the next time you are in a relationship will increase the odds of your ideal romance unfolding as planned.
#6: Being single really isn’t negative at all, in the grand scheme of things.
When you consider how many human beings on Earth suffer from hunger and homelessness, it really seems ridiculous to be depressed or angry merely for being single.
#7: You have more time for good friends and family members.
It’s impossible to refute that when one relationship ends, you have more time and energy to devote to all of the other various relationships in your life—and to gain a little more enjoyment from all those relationships, as well.
#8: You’ll have less excuses—and that’s a good thing!
Remember all those times you said something like, “There are so many things I need to get done, but I just don’t have time because of my partner!?” Well, unless you take the low road and just come up with another excuse, then you should start getting many more of those things done and moving forward in life more as a result.
#9: You have the ability for rapid change or evolution.
If you decide to devote all your extra time and energy to one particular problem or cause, then you can make some serious progress extremely quickly.
#10: You’ll become more independent.
This will serve you well for the rest of your life—even in future relationships!
*This content was inspired by an amazing article that can be found here.