A wise and philosophical soul once said that, “Only those who care about you can hear when you are quiet.” Most people are capable of doing simple things like picking a TV show to watch or deciding what to eat for dinner without needing to expend much time or energy, but you have to know that choices like these are anything but easy for introverts to make in order to understand introverts at all. Indeed, science has proven that the brain of an introvert is wired quite differently than the brain of an extrovert.
German psychologist Hans Eysenck argues that introverts are born with a high cortical arousal, and also that they are capable of processing more info per second than extroverts. However, this also means that situations and environments with numerous stimuli make it almost impossible for an introvert to think properly. More specifically, positron emission tomography (PET) scans demonstrate that introverts have more blood flowing in their frontal lobes and anterior thalamus, and these areas of the human brain are utilized for recalling events, making plans, and solving problems.
With all of this in mind, perhaps it should comes as no surprise that few human beings possess the unique characteristics which are required in order to become and remain good friends with an introvert. The friend of an introvert must be able to prevent them from beating themselves up excessively, and they must be able to compel them to stop constantly thinking about tens of different topics at once. It’s extremely difficult—and sometimes impossible—for an introvert to focus their brainpower among other people, so oftentimes they find more comfort and peace in solace as opposed to in the company of a mediocre friend.
Yet, introverts tend to be incredibly deep individuals, so the juice is definitely worth the squeeze when it comes to making allowances for odd character traits. Keep in mind that introverts must always adapt their thoughts, words, and actions so that extroverts understand them in the ways they intend. However, introverts seem to be very good at this, because research has found that the best teams are made up of some people who are extroverts and some people who are introverts; for instance, Apple is run by Steve Jobs and Steve Wozniak, and Facebook is supervised by Mark Zuckerberg and Sheryl Sandberg.
What’s more, Albert Einstein, Mahatma Gandhi, Bill Gates, Abraham Lincoln and Warren Buffett are all both distinguished and successful in terms of their chosen quests—and they’re also all introverts! Introverts will always put boundaries on what they reveal, they will frequently over-analyze most decisions, and they will often prefer quiet alone instead of exciting group outings. Yet, if you’re OK with having a friend or partner who thinks too much, then you won’t have to do as much thinking when you’re around them.
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